IntelliJ does not find pom.xml file - maven

Question

I'm new to this weird Maven thing and unsure how it works. My project contains a valid pom.xml file, but I am unable to do anything with it. Basically, I go to File -> Project Structure -> Libraries -> From Maven... and write pom.xml in this search field, but it does not find anything! I'm pretty sure I am doing something wrong. In general, I just want to know how to download all the libraries into a .jar format.
I use IntelliJand my pom.xml looks like this:
<project xmlns="http://maven.apache.org/POM/4.0.0" xmlns:xsi="http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema-instance" xsi:schemaLocation="http://maven.apache.org/POM/4.0.0 http://maven.apache.org/xsd/maven-4.0.0.xsd">
<modelVersion>4.0.0</modelVersion>
<groupId>com.corundumstudio.socketio</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-socketio</artifactId>
<version>1.0.0-SNAPSHOT</version>
<packaging>bundle</packaging>
<name>ConnectFour</name>
<description>A connectfour website</description>
<inceptionYear>2018</inceptionYear>
<scm>
<url>scm:git:git#github.com:mrniko/netty-socketio.git</url>
<connection>scm:git:git#github.com:mrniko/netty-socketio.git</connection>
<developerConnection>scm:git:git#github.com:mrniko/netty-socketio.git</developerConnection>
<tag>HEAD</tag>
</scm>
<licenses>
<license>
<name>Apache v2</name>
<url>http://www.apache.org/licenses/LICENSE-2.0.html</url>
<distribution>manual</distribution>
</license>
</licenses>
<developers>
<developer>
<id>mrniko</id>
<name>Nikita Koksharov</name>
<email>abracham.mitchell#gmail.com</email>
<roles>
<role>Architect</role>
<role>Developer</role>
</roles>
<timezone>+4</timezone>
</developer>
</developers>
<distributionManagement>
<repository>
<id>repo1</id>
<name>Release</name>
<url>file://C:/123</url>
</repository>
</distributionManagement>
<properties>
<skipTests>true</skipTests>
<project.build.sourceEncoding>UTF-8</project.build.sourceEncoding>
</properties>
<profiles>
<profile>
<id>release-sign-artifacts</id>
<activation>
<property>
<name>performRelease</name>
<value>true</value>
</property>
</activation>
</profile>
</profiles>
<dependencies>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-buffer</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-common</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-transport</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-handler</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-codec-http</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-codec</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>io.netty</groupId>
<artifactId>netty-transport-native-epoll</artifactId>
<version>4.1.22.Final</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>org.jmockit</groupId>
<artifactId>jmockit</artifactId>
<version>1.12</version>
<scope>test</scope>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>junit</groupId>
<artifactId>junit</artifactId>
<version>4.11</version>
<scope>test</scope>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>org.slf4j</groupId>
<artifactId>slf4j-api</artifactId>
<version>1.7.21</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>com.fasterxml.jackson.core</groupId>
<artifactId>jackson-core</artifactId>
<version>2.7.9</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>com.fasterxml.jackson.core</groupId>
<artifactId>jackson-databind</artifactId>
<version>2.7.9.2</version>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>org.springframework</groupId>
<artifactId>spring-beans</artifactId>
<version>[2.5,)</version>
<scope>provided</scope>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>org.springframework</groupId>
<artifactId>spring-core</artifactId>
<version>[2.5,)</version>
<exclusions>
<exclusion>
<groupId>commons-logging</groupId>
<artifactId>commons-logging</artifactId>
</exclusion>
</exclusions>
<scope>provided</scope>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>org.redisson</groupId>
<artifactId>redisson</artifactId>
<version>2.11.0</version>
<scope>provided</scope>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>com.hazelcast</groupId>
<artifactId>hazelcast-client</artifactId>
<version>3.4.3</version>
<scope>provided</scope>
</dependency>
<dependency>
<groupId>org.mongodb</groupId>
<artifactId>mongodb-driver-async</artifactId>
<version>3.6.3</version>
</dependency>
</dependencies>
<build>
<plugins>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-javadoc-plugin</artifactId>
<version>3.0.0</version>
<executions>
<execution>
<id>attach-javadocs</id>
<goals>
<goal>jar</goal>
</goals>
</execution>
</executions>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-release-plugin</artifactId>
<version>2.5.3</version>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-eclipse-plugin</artifactId>
<version>2.9</version>
<configuration>
<downloadSources>true</downloadSources>
<forceRecheck>true</forceRecheck>
</configuration>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-pmd-plugin</artifactId>
<version>3.0.1</version>
<executions>
<execution>
<phase>verify</phase>
<goals>
<goal>pmd</goal>
<goal>cpd</goal>
</goals>
</execution>
</executions>
<configuration>
<minimumTokens>100</minimumTokens>
<targetJdk>1.8</targetJdk>
<verbose>true</verbose>
</configuration>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-checkstyle-plugin</artifactId>
<version>2.11</version>
<executions>
<execution>
<phase>verify</phase>
<goals>
<goal>checkstyle</goal>
</goals>
</execution>
</executions>
<configuration>
<consoleOutput>true</consoleOutput>
<enableRSS>false</enableRSS>
<configLocation>/checkstyle.xml</configLocation>
</configuration>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<artifactId>maven-compiler-plugin</artifactId>
<version>3.7.0</version>
<configuration>
<source>1.8</source>
<target>1.8</target>
<optimize>true</optimize>
</configuration>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-source-plugin</artifactId>
<version>3.0.1</version>
<executions>
<execution>
<id>attach-sources</id>
<goals>
<goal>jar</goal>
</goals>
</execution>
</executions>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.maven.plugins</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-surefire-plugin</artifactId>
<version>2.20.1</version>
<configuration>
<argLine>-Dfile.encoding=utf-8</argLine>
</configuration>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>org.apache.felix</groupId>
<artifactId>maven-bundle-plugin</artifactId>
<version>3.5.0</version>
<extensions>true</extensions>
<configuration>
<instructions>
<Bundle-Name>${project.artifactId}</Bundle-Name>
<Import-Package>
org.springframework.*;resolution:=optional,com.hazelcast.*;resolution:=optional,org.redisson.*;resolution:=optional,*
</Import-Package>
<Export-Package>
com.corundumstudio.socketio;version="${project.version}",
com.corundumstudio.socketio.annotation;version="${project.version}",
com.corundumstudio.socketio.listener;version="${project.version}",
com.corundumstudio.socketio.protocol;version="${project.version}",
com.corundumstudio.socketio.store;version="${project.version}",
com.corundumstudio.socketio.store.pubsub;version="${project.version}",
</Export-Package>
</instructions>
</configuration>
</plugin>
<plugin>
<groupId>com.mycila</groupId>
<artifactId>license-maven-plugin</artifactId>
<version>2.6</version>
<configuration>
<basedir>${basedir}</basedir>
<header>${basedir}/header.txt</header>
<quiet>false</quiet>
<failIfMissing>true</failIfMissing>
<aggregate>false</aggregate>
<includes>
<include>src/**</include>
</includes>
<excludes>
<exclude>target/**</exclude>
</excludes>
<useDefaultExcludes>true</useDefaultExcludes>
<mapping>
<java>JAVADOC_STYLE</java>
</mapping>
<strictCheck>true</strictCheck>
<useDefaultMapping>true</useDefaultMapping>
<encoding>UTF-8</encoding>
</configuration>
<executions>
<execution>
<goals>
<goal>check</goal>
</goals>
</execution>
</executions>
</plugin>
</plugins>
</build>
</project>
Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

There are a number of things that could be going here but try this first:
Try ctrl-shift-a -> "Reimport All Maven Projects"
OR
Views -> Tool Windows -> Maven Projects -> click top left button (looks like a refresh icon)

Answer 2

First of all be sure that your project it is using Maven ?! maybe it is using Gradle so on
For a Maven project, pom.xml file:
For a Gradle project, build.gradle file:
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