How to update an existing object in a many to many relationship (.Net 5) - .net-5

Question

I have been using the .Net 5 and EF Core 5 for a small web app. Given EF Core 5 supports many - many out of the box there is no need for a joining table.
I've run into an issue when updating a object that already exists in the DB. For my app I have Athletes and Parents which have the many - many relationship.
public class Athlete
{
public int Id { get; set; }
public string FirstName { get; set; }
public string LastName { get; set; }
public string MiddleName { get; set; }
public string Email { get; set; }
public string ContactNumber { get; set; }
public string Street { get; set; }
public int Postcode { get; set; }
public string City { get; set; }
public StateEnum State { get; set; }
public DateTime DateofBirth { get; set; }
public DateTime DateSignedUp {get; set;}
public virtual ICollection<Parent> Parents { get; set; }
}
public class Parent
{
public int Id { get; set; }
public string FirstName { get; set; }
public string LastName { get; set; }
public string MiddleName { get; set; }
public string Email { get; set; }
public string ContactNumber { get; set; }
public string Street { get; set; }
public int Postcode { get; set; }
public string City { get; set; }
public StateEnum State { get; set; }
public DateTime DateofBirth { get; set; }
public DateTime DateSignedUp {get; set;}
public virtual ICollection<Athlete> Athletes { get; set; }
}
When I try to update the existing athlete that has a relation ship with two other parents I get an error:
Violation of PRIMARY KEY constraint 'PK_AthleteParent'. Cannot insert
duplicate key in object 'dbo.AthleteParent'. The duplicate key value
is (31, 1)
[HttpPost]
public async Task<ActionResult<Athlete>> PostAthlete(Athlete athlete)
{
_context.Athletes.Update(athlete);
await _context.SaveChangesAsync();
return Ok(athlete));
}
From what I can tell when entity tries to update my Athlete it tries to insert new rows into the joining table even though the parents already exist in there. Is there a way to get entity to remove any records when the relationship is updated? Or is there a way to tell entity to take update the joining table to match the Athlete object that is passed in?

Answer 1

Given a simple example like this:
public class Foo {
Guid Id { get; set; }
ICollection<Bar> Bars { get; set; }
}
public class Bar {
Guid Id { get; set; }
ICollection<Foo> Foos { get; set; }
}
You can call clear() on a tracked instance of Foo, and then re-add the Bar instances that you want assigned. I've found this is a nice way to avoid the constraint exception - much easier than manually trying to figure out what Bars have changed.
var foo = context.Foos.Include(x => x.Bars).FirstOrDefault(x => x.Id == someGuid);
foo.Bars.Clear();
foo.Bars.Add(bar1);
foo.Bars.Add(bar2);
...
context.Update(foo);
context.SaveChanges();